Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Friendship- Have Our Ideas Of A "Friend" Changed?


In the age of 5,000+ Facebook friends, have we lost our sense of friendship? The theme of friendship is in both the Iliad, and the Sumerian Epic of Gilgamesh. Achilles is fiercely loyal to his dead friend Patroclus; and Gilgamesh stands by Enkido in the gravest danger. Do I have any friends like that? Can I find them on Facebook? Reflect on modern ideas of friendship, and describe whether you think you are a true friend (Arete)?

13 comments:

  1. I agree that in this age, friendship is almost a losing battle. Kind of like the newspaper and books, friendship is growing outdated. I have only one true friend, and ill be the first to say it. There is no trust, no honor between people anymore. At times i have thought that i had a lot of friends. Time showed me though, that they were not friends. The "friends" i thought i had lied to me and stole from me. The only people i can ever fully trust are my parents, and that one true special friend.

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  2. For me I don't use Facebook as much, I have one but every week i sign in once or so. Most of my friends on facebook are family back home, So the bottom line is i can not ansnwer this question because i do not know, I work better alone.

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  3. Todays idea of friendship includes how many people you can get to recognize your picture on facebook. Sometimes people will be your friend even if they have no clue who you are. In the Gilgamesh, friendship really comes through in the time of need. In all the historic literature that we have read, friendship seems to really be a major theme. I think we still have a sense of what friendship is and how to be a good friend, but you're not going to start and keep a real friendship on facebook. Your real friends are the ones that will be over in a split second whenever you call or the ones who will defend you even if you're wrong. I try to be as good as a friend as I can. I don't talk badly about my friends and I try to be there for them and support them in whatever they do.

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  4. Our perception of friendship has remained fundamentally unchanged, despite the onset of social media. Regardless of the obscene numbers of "friends" we claim to have on Facebook, we consider only a fraction of these individuals true friends. Friendship requires a commitment, and can only be strengthened over time. It requires a stronger connection than can be spontaneously formed on a social networking website.

    While many of our friends on Facebook might be considered acquaintances or something of the like, it is quite difficult to maintain hundreds of close friendships.

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  5. I think the sense of real friendship has faded. People are confusing friends with people they know. Friend's are there through thick and thin like how Gilgamesh and Enkido and Achilles and Patroclus are there for each other when they need someone even if that means putting themselves in danger. That's why i believe that Facebook friend's all aren't really friends most of them are people that know each other. Friends are there for each other no matter what the situation. I think now days friendship has become more of whether people know each other and if they get along and not so much if they hang out or would be there if the other was in need. I believe that I am normally a true friend to others that consider me a true friend. Most of the time I am not going to go completely out of my way to help someone that would not do the same for me; but there are occasions that I will go out of my way to help others just because sometimes it is the right thing to do.

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  6. In my opinion to many people the value of friendship has faded or doesn't mean as much as it use to. For me the value of friendship has even more value than before as I have a lot of close friends that I could relate to or they'd be there when I need them. I have friends that I just hang out with but I know if I ever needed them to be there for me they wouldn't because they wouldn't. On the other hand I choose not to depend on those friends but rather the ones i know would be there as like i would do the same for all those who i consider to be my true friends, as Enkido was there for Gilgamesh and Wiglaf was there for Beowulf.

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  7. I think we still have a sense of what friendship is and how to be a good friend, but you're not going to start and keep a real friendship on facebook. Sometimes people will be your friend even if they have no clue who you are. In the Gilgamesh, friendship really comes through in the time of need. In all the history we have read, friendship seems to really be a major theme. I think we still have a sense of what friendship is and how to be a good friend.

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  8. Having a lot of friends on facebook doesn't mean they are all your friends. I personally think that you can't consider someone you recognize but don't talk to, as a friend and many people now a days do consider it. I believe that there is no such thing as a best friend because at sometime that "best friend" turns their back on you. You might think you have a lot of friends but then again in the end you stand alone. Therefore, I think that you should trust no one but yourself and family.

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  9. The idea of friendship hasn't changed, its just what someone would do for their friends, their true friends. On facebook if you have 300 friends not all of them are you friends only a few, the rest are just people you know, people you go to school with or family. I am a true friend to the ones closest to me.

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  10. The idea of friendship I think, has not changed. The ideals and morals of friend ship are still the same, I don’t think that will ever change. There is always some friends that would risk their lives for each other, like Enkido for Gilgamesh. Enkido risks his life to save Gilgamesh, showing the bond of their friendship, these act of friendship still occur like in the army when soldiers take a bullet for a friend. People with 5,000 friends on facebook don’t actually believe that every one of those people is truly his friends. I consider myself a true friend, and I will always help a friend in need. I will always be loyal and supportive of my true friends because I know that they will do the same for me.

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  11. Since the development of social networking sites such as facebook, the meaning of the term "friends" has drastically changed. Rather than having a select group of friends, it has become more important to have hundreds of virtual acquaintances. I don't believe people should consider each other friends if they couldn't talk to one another in person. It has become more of a popularity contest than a word to describe someone who you can trust that would always be there for you. However, in the stories of Gilgamesh and the Illiad, there is always the "best friend" who saves the day because he risked his own life to save his friend . In today's society, such friends are hard to come by.

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  12. we have our friendship and we hve our buddies. my fiends are the same for everyone else, there the people you do everything with, and then your buddies are people you call when your friends are not around. kind of like a rebound, but in a good way. i consider myself a really good friend like i have my moments, but so does everyone else

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  13. Within todays society, the true meaning of what a friendship is is not reflected much. Many people today establish these friendships which they believe to be so amazing, when in reality many of those same people are doing nothing more than gossiping and spreading rumors about each other. A true friend in my opinion is someone that is going to stick by your side regardless of what situation comes to play. A friend is someone that accepts you for who you really are rather than criticizing for your flaws behind your back to others. It may be possible to find someone on facebook who you can befriend, however most of the time people on facebook aren't looking for friendships, mainly to look at peoples photos, to see what's the latest gossip or to find out who's dating who. Mainly to Many people don't really think about what a true friendship should look like, they simply want to be able to call someone their friend. Personally I don't have many people whom I call my friends due to the fact that Ive been betrayed before. They're more like associates. Yet I do think that I'm a good friend to the few who I call my friends. Whenever my help is needed I give it. Rather or not I agree with some of the decisions my friends have made, I make sure that I give them my support while at the same time making sure that I let them what I think about that decision.

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